Life goes through many phases,each of which ends to give way to another.We may not realise it then,but later when we join the dots,it is clear how each ending paved the way for a new beginning,........................
EVERY relationship comes with an expiry date and when it is time for it to end,there are distinct signs that point towards the same.Now,it is another matter whether we choose to heed these or not.Of course,the ending may not necessarily always mean a physical separation,as in the case of blood relationships or a marriage,but definitely a phase ends to enable the start of another.It is difficult for us to accept endings even though the only certainty about anything in life is the inevitability of its expiry.And so sometimes,even when it stares us in the face,we refuse to accept that a relationship has played itself out.It often happens that one person accepts the finality earlier than the other.This can be a traumatic experience for the one left behind.
Early signs of expiry appear when a relationship starts giving us more stress and pain,than happiness.You may have tried everything and yet not been able to get it back on the footing you desire.You try all the old tricks and yet are not able to bring back the magic of earlier days.And when this starts distressing you so much that it af fects your peace of mind and hurts your dignity,it is certainly time to end the relationship.
It is said that we come into each others lives and strike up relationships when we need to learn certain lessons from each other.Our mutual experiences teach us a lot.When there is nothing more to be learnt,we move on to other people and experiences as life is a constant process of learning.Sometimes,we may do so voluntarily;at other times matters are taken out of our hand and we become mere witnesses or victims of the situation.
Women,it is observed,find it more difficult to let go and walk out of a relationship than men do.This is because,nurturer and preserver that she is,a woman tries to patch things and keep the boat steady before she accepts the inevitable.A man,on the other hand,is quicker to accept the expiry date and finds it a waste of time and energy to hang in there longer.So he cuts his losses as he would with business and walks out.That does not mean that he hurts any less,just that he accepts the inevitable faster.
What is true of relationships is true of other things in life as well.For instance,a job.Nobody may throw you out,nor any circumstances make you particularly uncomfortable,but you may still realise that it is time to walk out of the job you are holding presently.You have learnt what you could here and are raring to go to another place and earn some more.The choice could be yours,or suddenly you may get thrown out!
Life goes through many phases,each of which ends to give way to another.We may not realise it then,but later when we join the dots,it is clear how each ending paved the way for a new beginning,and so life moved on towards its destined goal,with us picking up new experiences and learnings along the way.When the Apple CEO,Steve Jobs,got fired from the company he built,he was stunned,but years later he was to say,I didnt see it then,but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could ever have happened to me.The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again,less sure of myself. In the next five years,he started a company called NeXt and another called Pixar and met the woman he married.And the rest,as they say,is history.
If you live each day as if it was your last,some day you will most certainly be right, he quoted to great applause.
No one wants to die and yet death is the destination we all share.No one has ever escaped it.And thats as it should be because Death is very likely the single best invention of life.It is lifes change agent.It clears up the old to make way for the new.
Your time is limited,so dont waste it living someone elses life.Dont be trapped by dogma,dont let the noise of others opinions drown your own inner voice.And most important,have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.They somehow already know what you want to become.Everything else is secondary.
And so,whats wrong with endings Nothing if you look at them as new beginnings! And rather than regretting them,get on with the rest of your life!
EVERY relationship comes with an expiry date and when it is time for it to end,there are distinct signs that point towards the same.Now,it is another matter whether we choose to heed these or not.Of course,the ending may not necessarily always mean a physical separation,as in the case of blood relationships or a marriage,but definitely a phase ends to enable the start of another.It is difficult for us to accept endings even though the only certainty about anything in life is the inevitability of its expiry.And so sometimes,even when it stares us in the face,we refuse to accept that a relationship has played itself out.It often happens that one person accepts the finality earlier than the other.This can be a traumatic experience for the one left behind.
Early signs of expiry appear when a relationship starts giving us more stress and pain,than happiness.You may have tried everything and yet not been able to get it back on the footing you desire.You try all the old tricks and yet are not able to bring back the magic of earlier days.And when this starts distressing you so much that it af fects your peace of mind and hurts your dignity,it is certainly time to end the relationship.
It is said that we come into each others lives and strike up relationships when we need to learn certain lessons from each other.Our mutual experiences teach us a lot.When there is nothing more to be learnt,we move on to other people and experiences as life is a constant process of learning.Sometimes,we may do so voluntarily;at other times matters are taken out of our hand and we become mere witnesses or victims of the situation.
Women,it is observed,find it more difficult to let go and walk out of a relationship than men do.This is because,nurturer and preserver that she is,a woman tries to patch things and keep the boat steady before she accepts the inevitable.A man,on the other hand,is quicker to accept the expiry date and finds it a waste of time and energy to hang in there longer.So he cuts his losses as he would with business and walks out.That does not mean that he hurts any less,just that he accepts the inevitable faster.
What is true of relationships is true of other things in life as well.For instance,a job.Nobody may throw you out,nor any circumstances make you particularly uncomfortable,but you may still realise that it is time to walk out of the job you are holding presently.You have learnt what you could here and are raring to go to another place and earn some more.The choice could be yours,or suddenly you may get thrown out!
Life goes through many phases,each of which ends to give way to another.We may not realise it then,but later when we join the dots,it is clear how each ending paved the way for a new beginning,and so life moved on towards its destined goal,with us picking up new experiences and learnings along the way.When the Apple CEO,Steve Jobs,got fired from the company he built,he was stunned,but years later he was to say,I didnt see it then,but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could ever have happened to me.The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again,less sure of myself. In the next five years,he started a company called NeXt and another called Pixar and met the woman he married.And the rest,as they say,is history.
If you live each day as if it was your last,some day you will most certainly be right, he quoted to great applause.
No one wants to die and yet death is the destination we all share.No one has ever escaped it.And thats as it should be because Death is very likely the single best invention of life.It is lifes change agent.It clears up the old to make way for the new.
Your time is limited,so dont waste it living someone elses life.Dont be trapped by dogma,dont let the noise of others opinions drown your own inner voice.And most important,have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.They somehow already know what you want to become.Everything else is secondary.
And so,whats wrong with endings Nothing if you look at them as new beginnings! And rather than regretting them,get on with the rest of your life!
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