In Love, Pain Is A Blessing

Love is painful, but the pain is certainly a blessing. Love is painful because love brings growth. Love demands, transforms and is painful because love gives you a new birth.
Love brings your heart into relationship – and when the heart is in relationship there is always pain. If you avoid the pain, you will miss all pleasures of life. With love you become human; you stand erect on earth. With love you are vertical.
With love are problems. But with problems is growth – the greater the problem, the greater the opportunity. More and more pain, too.

That's why many people never love – it is so painful. They never become vertical.
Love never shatters you completely. It simply shatters you a little, a little bit. It shatters the crust of your ego, but the centre of the ego remains intact. Then there is a deeper pain, deeper than love, and that is of prayer – it shatters you utterly. It is death. When you have learnt how to love, and you have learnt that the pain that love brings is a blessing in disguise, it is beautiful, then you become able and you take another step – that step is prayer.
All lovers feel a little miserable. They would like to disappear completely, but it is not possible in human relationships. Human relationship is limited. But one learns from it, that there is a possibility:

if it can happen so much in a human relationship, how much more can happen in a relationship with the Divine?
Love makes you ready to take the final jump, the quantum leap. That's what I call prayer, or you can call it meditation. You have to disappear for existence to be. Love is a training ground, a school, to learn first lessons – of the beauty, of the blessing and benediction of disappearance; to learn that pain is blessed.
So when you are in love, or when love arises, cooperate with it, don't try resisting. People come to a compromise. The basic problem that i have been looking at is that lovers by and by come to a compromise. The compromise is: You don't hurt me, i will not hurt you. That's what marriage is. Then people become settled. They become so afraid of pain that they say, "Don't hurt me and i will not hurt you." But then when pain disappears, love also disappears. They exist together.
When you are in love, love hurts. It hurts terribly.
But never resist, never create any barrier for pain. Allow it. And by and by you will see that it was a wrong interpretation. It is not really pain. It is just that something is going so deep in you that you interpret it like a pain. You don't know anything else. You are only aware of pain in your past life, in your past experience. Whenever something penetrates deep, you interpret it as pain. Don't use the word 'pain'. When love and love's arrow goes deep into your heart, close your eyes and don't use words – just see what it is, and you will never see it is pain. You will see it is a benediction. You will be tremendously moved by it. You will feel joyous. Don't use words. When something new happens to you, always allow a deep look into it without any language.

Shiva ::: who power me from Inside

Considering Shivas unprecedented wisdom,His unique qualities of leadership,His unbounded love for human beings in a word,His unsurpassed uniqueness in all aspects of life spiritual aspirants realised that although Shiva was human in form,He was in fact none other than Brahmn on earth,or what is called Taraka Brahmn.

In the inseparable relationship of Shiva and Shakti,Shiva is absolutely simple.Nowhere in His expressions is there any complexity.Even at the time of relating to Prakriti,He is very simple;He is not at all complex.He is discharging His duties in all fields of life,whether big or small,domestic or social,worldly or spiritual,without losing His simplicity.Even when He sets forth to get married,He is always His simple self.Thus Shiva was simple and straightforward in all respects.The greatest thing people should learn from Shiva is this sort of straightforwardness and simplicity,and along with that,there was no pomp and show in any aspect of Shivas life.
Shiva,who had countless occult powers,before whom everyone bowed with bended knee,was completely indifferent to His powers.This greatness of Shiva was a distinct trait of His character.While some gods and goddesses wore various types of ornaments some had crowns on their heads,some bangles on their wrists,earrings,golddecorated girdles around their waists Shiva had no ornaments.His ornaments were His followers,His devotees the common people.Followers of Shiva were called gana or mass of followers,in Sanskrit.These people were the ornaments of Shiva.They made up Shivas family.His joys and sorrows,pleasures and pains centred round them.And Shivas family meant the entire universe.All the persons of this universe,whether frustrated or joyful,educated or uneducated,devotees or opponents,were included in His family.No one was excluded,because all together made up Shivas golden home in His thatched house.Who could be excluded That is why Shiva was so close to the hearts of the common people.He belonged to one and all.

om namah shivay..

yatra tatra sarvtra....


kashi se janme kashi me mit te...shiv k upasak kabhi na girte.....


jai bhole...

Whats wrong with endings

Life goes through many phases,each of which ends to give way to another.We may not realise it then,but later when we join the dots,it is clear how each ending paved the way for a new beginning,........................

EVERY relationship comes with an expiry date and when it is time for it to end,there are distinct signs that point towards the same.Now,it is another matter whether we choose to heed these or not.Of course,the ending may not necessarily always mean a physical separation,as in the case of blood relationships or a marriage,but definitely a phase ends to enable the start of another.It is difficult for us to accept endings even though the only certainty about anything in life is the inevitability of its expiry.And so sometimes,even when it stares us in the face,we refuse to accept that a relationship has played itself out.It often happens that one person accepts the finality earlier than the other.This can be a traumatic experience for the one left behind.
Early signs of expiry appear when a relationship starts giving us more stress and pain,than happiness.You may have tried everything and yet not been able to get it back on the footing you desire.You try all the old tricks and yet are not able to bring back the magic of earlier days.And when this starts distressing you so much that it af fects your peace of mind and hurts your dignity,it is certainly time to end the relationship.
It is said that we come into each others lives and strike up relationships when we need to learn certain lessons from each other.Our mutual experiences teach us a lot.When there is nothing more to be learnt,we move on to other people and experiences as life is a constant process of learning.Sometimes,we may do so voluntarily;at other times matters are taken out of our hand and we become mere witnesses or victims of the situation.
Women,it is observed,find it more difficult to let go and walk out of a relationship than men do.This is because,nurturer and preserver that she is,a woman tries to patch things and keep the boat steady before she accepts the inevitable.A man,on the other hand,is quicker to accept the expiry date and finds it a waste of time and energy to hang in there longer.So he cuts his losses as he would with business and walks out.That does not mean that he hurts any less,just that he accepts the inevitable faster.
What is true of relationships is true of other things in life as well.For instance,a job.Nobody may throw you out,nor any circumstances make you particularly uncomfortable,but you may still realise that it is time to walk out of the job you are holding presently.You have learnt what you could here and are raring to go to another place and earn some more.The choice could be yours,or suddenly you may get thrown out!
Life goes through many phases,each of which ends to give way to another.We may not realise it then,but later when we join the dots,it is clear how each ending paved the way for a new beginning,and so life moved on towards its destined goal,with us picking up new experiences and learnings along the way.When the Apple CEO,Steve Jobs,got fired from the company he built,he was stunned,but years later he was to say,I didnt see it then,but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could ever have happened to me.The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again,less sure of myself. In the next five years,he started a company called NeXt and another called Pixar and met the woman he married.And the rest,as they say,is history.

If you live each day as if it was your last,some day you will most certainly be right, he quoted to great applause.

No one wants to die and yet death is the destination we all share.No one has ever escaped it.And thats as it should be because Death is very likely the single best invention of life.It is lifes change agent.It clears up the old to make way for the new.

Your time is limited,so dont waste it living someone elses life.Dont be trapped by dogma,dont let the noise of others opinions drown your own inner voice.And most important,have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.They somehow already know what you want to become.Everything else is secondary.
And so,whats wrong with endings Nothing if you look at them as new beginnings! And rather than regretting them,get on with the rest of your life!